Slow down, I can't keep up!

Brad M. Griffin Image Brad M. Griffin | Jan 18, 2013
Have you ever heard that plea before?

I sure have. Especially from my four-year-old, who always wants to be sure I am hearing what he’s telling me (and believe me, he has a lot to say).

Sometimes the problem is just that I have longer legs than my kids. But more often it’s about my pace. I tend to take life at a speed that feels overwhelming to the people around me and, when I’m honest, to myself some days.

I have a lot of respect for Mark Yaconelli’s work through the years on teenagers and spiritual disciplines. I always use his book Downtime: Helping Teenagers Pray when I teach courses on engaging youth in spiritual disciplines. One of the most memorable stories for me is about the “Slow Club” started by Yaconelli’s son Joseph. He writes:

When [Joseph] was four years old, he was no longer willing to be hustled to preschool and hurried along on errands. One morning Joseph announced he was starting a new organization called “Slow Club,” in which he would serve as president. The rules of the club were simple: No running and no hurrying. Unfortunately, neither his parents nor his brother could commit to these regulations, so for the next year Joseph was the only member of his club. Each morning, he’d stroll to school at his natural pace. If I tried to pull him along or anxiously urge him to “hurry it up!” he’d respond calmly, “I’m president of Slow Club, Dad. I don’t hurry.”

Mark goes on to share about the things Joseph noticed that no one else did. This became a gift to anyone who would receive it, though he had few takers. Then Mark suggests to us:

Like Joseph, those of us who minister among young people seek to be members of Slow Club. We invite youth to attend to their lives; we encourage them not to overlook the signs of God’s presence. Every time we’re among youth, we look and listen with slow eyes and ears. We listen for the deep sounds of God. We look patiently for the little signs of grace. We cultivate wonder. Like Joseph, we walk beside them saying, “What do you notice? What do you see? How is God present in this moment?” [[Mark Yaconelli, Contemplative Youth Ministry: Practicing the Presence of Jesus, 197-199.]]

I love this reminder. But it’s a real challenge for me. I worry that if Margaret Feinberg might challenge us to give up prayer for Lent, Mark might just invite us to give up speed. I worry because, like most discipleship, this is hard.

Despite my worry, I think I’m okay with that. I know my son will be.

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Brad M. Griffin

Brad M. Griffin is the Senior Director of Content & Research for the Fuller Youth Institute, where he develops research-based resources for youth ministry leaders & families. A speaker, writer, and volunteer pastor, Brad is the coauthor of over fifteen books, including Faith Beyond Youth Group, 3 Big Questions That Change Every Teenager & 3 Big Questions That Shape Your Future, Growing Young, and Sticky Faith. Brad and his wife, Missy, live in Southern California and share life with their three teenage and young adult kids.

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