The Image of Lassiez-Faire Marriage

Cody Ray Charland | Feb 25, 2011

Dr. John Witte came to Fuller’s campus recently to give a talk on covenantal marriage. He currently serves as the director of Emorys Center for the Study of Law and Religion. His time was spent focusing on the contrasting views of marriage in scripture and culture. Towards the end of his talk, he mentioned the term Lassiez-Faire Marriage. Dr. Witte said, “Marriage has become a business within our culture. Society claims that if it’s not profitable, we are to find a new product to invest in with as little hassle as possible.”

What we’re seeing, outside of a review of high school Econ class, is the casual approach to dating has culturally transitioned to marriage. Husband and wife enjoy free-will over commitment. “Let-do” is an economic principle dealing with money and now, relationships as well.

What are our students seeing? Culture is demonstrating what not to do. Broken, temporary, and physically-based relationships are subject matter for prime-time sitcoms, pop music, and the new social majority. When was the last time the evening news reported on a positive marriage?

Here are some questions to ask in your context:

  • What defines a successful, positive, biblical relationship?
  • Where are the couples that are successful, Christ-glorifying, living examples in our setting?
  • What about dating relationships?
  • What is our theology of singleness, and who are the folks who are living out a healthy single lifestyle?
  • If there are successful dating and marriage relationships, how can they be used for the benefit of all?

You probably can’t overwhelm culture. But you can offer truthful alternatives through the lives of those who surround the kids in your context.

Cody Ray Charland

Cody Ray Charland is a second year MATM student at Fuller’s Pasadena campus. He holds a BA in Physical Education from the University of North Carolina at Wilmington. As Project Assistant with the Fuller Youth Institute, he handles social media, and helps with writing, technology, and research. He was formerly a Young Life leader as well as Youth Pastor at Port City Community Church in Wilmington, NC. Cody enjoys the outdoors, all things Tar Heel, and barbecue.


More from this author

More From Us

Hello, WELCOME TO FYI
Join the community

Sign up for our email today and choose from one of our popular free downloads sent straight to your inbox. Plus, you’ll be the first to know about our sales, offers, and new releases.

Join the community

Sign up for our email today and choose from one of our popular free downloads. Plus, you’ll be the first to know about our sales, offers, and new releases.