I Was One of “Those” Parents
Photo by London Scout
Last week our two oldest kids started summer school. We had been told by letter and phone call that Krista, our six year-old, was going to be in a particular class. To our delight, it was the same class as one of her good buddies at school.
I showed up the first morning and it turned out that Krista was in a different class. She didn’t realize it yet, but I knew she’d be bummed.
So I walked up to the registration desk and asked if it would be possible for her to be switched. I told them I wasn’t one of “those parents” who is pushy but we had been informed by letter and phone call and Krista’s hopes would be dashed if she wasn’t in the same class. To my delight, they made the switch and I got Krista in the class with her friend.
My good friend, Robyn, once described another mom we know as being an advocate for her child. Not in a pushy, helicopter parent sort of way, but just looking out for her child and making sure that he was in environments that were both fair and stretching.
I have it in me to be pushy. I try not to be, I try to be full of grace and mercy. But as a parent, it’s hard to find that line between being an advocate and being too pushy.
As youth workers, how can we encourage parents to be advocates for their children at school, in the soccer field, and even in our youth ministry? How can we create channels of communication that let parents express their fears and dreams for their kids? I think it starts by…
- Slowing down around church and youth ministry events and making an effort to stop and ask parents how their family is doing.
- Returning parents’ e.mails, phone calls, and Facebook messages promptly.
- Training our volunteers, who are often younger and even more intimidated by parents than we are, how to have meaningful relationships with parents.
- Inviting parents to be on our volunteer team so that we have their perspective constantly.
- Starting a parent support team that provides advice and wisdom.