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Today’s guest blog is by Shane Stacey. Shane has been involved in student ministry for 19 years. He currently serves as the EFCA's national director of ReachStudents. He lives with his wife and three children in Minneapolis, MN.
 



I serve in a student ministry that just did a series on doubt. We loved it. Here are a few things we learned that might be helpful as you consider leading your own.


OUR EXPERIENCE:


Flipping the normal lecture/lab format

Our student ministry normally starts with a large group teaching then breaks into smaller discussion groups. For this series, we flipped it and started with discussion groups that allowed students to express their own opinions and thoughts on a particular issue, then came back together for a large group time.

Students loved it.

In fact, it seemed that they engaged more deeply in the larger group teaching because they had already articulated their own questions to their friends.


Robust dialogue

This series stirred up A LOT of robust dialogue. It was like shaking a bottle of soda and finally pulling off the cap. Deep questions, confusing emotions, and conflicting thoughts quickly surfaced, and it became clear that many students had already been wrestling with these issues on their own.

Students also learned how to express disagreement with one another in a way that showed respect and dignity.


Kitchen table conversations

Several parents contacted the student ministries pastor to let them know that their son or daughter was coming home fired up and asking questions they had never voiced before. Some families found themselves staying up late around the kitchen table for hours talking about the questions. Most of the parents were thrilled to hear their son/daughter wrestling so hard with such foundational faith issues.

One dad mentioned that it woke him up to the reality that his son was no longer a child. He said, “I realized that I’ve not shifted my parenting. My son has his own thoughts about his faith and I need to adjust how I come alongside him in this season.”


Exposing their worldview

This series did a great job of exposing what students really believe. And it revealed just how much they are being influenced by culture. It also helped expose how many students actually know what they believe and, more importantly, why they believe it. Our series on doubt has helped us better understand what we need to focus more on in the coming year, and affirm where the gospel is taking root and growing.


Do your homework

We used the Can I Ask That? book as a framework. It gave us a great foundation, and I decided to do some additional reading on each subject before the sessions. Honestly, it was great for me. It exposed me to new ideas and new ways of thinking about each particular issue, which allowed me to dialogue along with the students.


Prepare your adult team

You’ll also want to do your homework so you can best prepare your team. Several of our adults had not thought through these issues very deeply themselves, or had not done so in a very long time. As a result, the depth of the students’ questions caught them off-guard. To help equip each parent, we supplemented them with additional resources on each topic.


Don’t short change the dialogue

A few of our adults were tempted to switch into “teaching mode.” They didn’t grasp that helping students articulate and express their own thinking is the critical step to learning. Be careful not to jump right into teaching. Dialogue first.


Two weeks per question

If we were to do it again, we’d spend two weeks on each question. The first week would focus on dialogue, and in the second week we’d spend more time addressing specific questions/thoughts that came up from a biblical perspective. I discovered that I needed to frame the question, let students express their current position, consider various ways to approach each question, and then see what the scriptures had to say about the issue. It’s a lot to try to do in one night. Two is better.


Understand the point

We continued to remind ourselves that the point of the series was not to answer every question definitively. We wanted to help students realize it was OK to ask tough questions. And, when they do, we’ll do our best to wrestle with them deeply. However, we can’t say everything there is to say about every question. These are topics we will all continue to wrestle with throughout our lives.

 

If you’ve used Can I Ask That? What have you learned?

 

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If there’s one thing my friends and family around the country know about California these days, it’s that we are in a severe drought. Some outside folks seem even more aware than most Californians of the extent of the situation. Closer to home, more and more people are waking up to the reality that our water is running short.

It’s tempting in the midst of that narrative to buy into the story of scarcity about everything. After all, our world feeds on this narrative. There’s not enough! is the cry we hear all around us, whether it’s about water, money, education, Christians in America, or a hundred other things.

A question presents itself in the midst of all this "not-enough" talk: Can the good news of God’s abundance be trusted in the face of the story of scarcity?

The question comes from theologian Walter Brueggemann in an essay entitled The Liturgy of Abundance, The Myth of Scarcity. [[Later published (2000) in Brueggemann’s Deep Memory, Exuberant Hope: Contested Truth in a Post-Christian World.]] I make myself re-read this powerful reminder every now and then. Brueggemann presses us to consider God’s shocking alternative to the myth of scarcity. Take a moment to read it yourself right now.

Bruegemann was recently at Fuller for a fantastic conference on justice, grace, and law, and I was reminded that this message influences the way we think about the world’s problems and our responses to injustice, poverty, and lack of resources. If there’s enough to go around, what can we do about the obvious scarcity we see?

Last year I was able to travel to the Dominican Republic with Compassion International as part of a project we’ve recently released called Step Into My Shoes. Together with my daughter Anna, I witnessed the work of God proclaiming enough in places of true scarcity.

Scarcity of clean water.

Scarcity of livable income.

Scarcity of decent housing.

Scarcity of power to change circumstances.

We saw so many reasons to scream “Not enough!” And yet, God’s work through local churches and the partnership of folks like Compassion speaks a different narrative to a hopeful people.

Brueggemann prophetically reminds us, “We have a love affair with ‘more’—and we will never have enough.” At the root of it, we don’t trust the story of generous abundance laid out for us in scripture. Rather, we buy the shadow-story of scarcity, the line that there’s not enough. It doesn’t matter what “it” is—money, time, prestige, people who care about what we think, kids who show up at youth group—our tendency is to say, “Not enough!”

The story of God speaks in opposition to this narrative. Brueggemann writes, “The Bible starts out with a liturgy of abundance. Genesis 1 is a song of praise for God’s generosity … [it] affirms generosity and denies scarcity.” 

From manna in the wilderness to a small lunch feeding thousands, the story goes on and on proclaiming that “the gifts of life are indeed given by a generous God. It’s a wonder, it’s a miracle, it’s an embarrassment, it’s irrational, but God’s abundance transcends the market economy.

Here’s the one line we have to remember in the face of all of this:

There is enough.

In the midst of our temptation to give in to fear or to the security of comfort, we’re invited to embrace these truths from scripture. Our God is outrageously generous.

There is enough.

Sometimes we need a story that reminds us that the opposite of poverty is not wealth, it’s discovering God’s idea of “enough.” That’s my hope for my family, my ministry, and yours. Let’s live as if this story is true!

 

Take a look at the Step Into My Shoes Family Toolkit or church-based Group Starter Kit for help taking a next step on this journey of discovering “enough.” 



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The most important question to ask before serving

  

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Why are we serving?


Our family was finishing up frozen yogurt, and it was time to get to the heart of our conversation about our upcoming service trip. Thanks to FYI’s exciting partnership with Compassion International on a new family-based project called Step Into My Shoes, the Powell family was going to Brazil to experience Compassion’s ministry firsthand.

Because of our research on justice and service, Dave and I wanted our kids to be more prepared than simply making sure they have the right clothes, immunizations, and bug repellent. During our first Brazil prep meeting, we learned about the history, culture, and people of Brazil. We created a trivia game, rewarding correct answers with York Peppermint candies (a Powell favorite).

Having understood more about Brazil, this second prep meeting was devoted to what I think is the most important question about our trip: why are we serving? Our kids had various answers, ranging from “because we get to miss school” (at least they are honest) to “so we can learn about a new culture.” Reading Jesus’ teachings about “salt and light” helped deepen our conversation, and explore more Jesus-y flavored motivations.

We decided to create a single sentence together as a family. One sentence that we could memorize and turn to when our Brazil experience got bumpy. After several edits and iterations, here’s what the five of us came up with:

“We’re going to Brazil to learn firsthand about a new culture and people because we feel called to spread God’s love.”

The five Powells feel incredibly blessed to get to go to Brazil together. We had wanted to do a cross-cultural service experience in 2015 and God answered our prayers in a bigger way than we ever expected. But also in seasons when your and my family’s service experiences are less than 5 miles from home, it’s always a good idea to talk together as a family about why we serve. Even if it’s a 40-second conversation in our minivan as we’re driving to the local shelter for folks who are homeless.

I’m curious: What do you do to help young people—or your whole family—remember WHY they are involved in God’s justice work?

 

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Today’s guest contributor is Tim Gardner, a husband, dad, and high school pastor at Faith Church in Pennsylvania. 

 

Can I be a Christian and believe in evolution?


This session in Can I Ask That? changed the culture of our youth ministry. For the first time, our students began to explore their beliefs, ask questions, and express doubts in the context of a caring community. Having led this session I saw firsthand the freedom and peace it brought students about the perceived war between science and faith.

Here’s how two students now deal with the question, “Can I be a Christian and believe in evolution?” after going through Can I Ask That?

Julie is a pastor’s kid; she has always attended Sunday school, Vacation Bible School, youth group, you name it. Having been taught that God created the earth in a literal six-day period, Julie felt like she could never question this view, that doubting the “how” of creation would show weakened faith. At the same time, science made sense to her. She struggled through biology class and conversations with peers and teachers because of her conflicted upbringing. In the middle of our discussion on evolution, Julie declared, “Having grown up in church, I never knew I could even think about things like this.” For the first time, Julie felt the freedom to engage in this conversation. This question did not weaken her faith; it strengthened it.

John felt like he couldn’t talk in biology class; if he shared his views of God as creator, he would be shot down and embarrassed. Talking through topics of genre, creationism, and evolution, he began thinking through these issues in a different light. Bringing ideas about old-earth vs. new-earth theories into the conversation allowed John to explore the “how” of creation without feeling like he had to defend the “who” of creation, the fact that God created and made humankind in God’s image. Because of Can I Ask That? John became comfortable exploring his faith and is now able to articulate what he believes.

Having only been in my current church for less than six months, Can I Ask That? has expedited meaningful connections with my students. Hosting these sessions at our home and co-leading with my wife has added a more personal dimension to an already impactful study. It’s always good to wrestle with these questions personally, and it is a privilege to help students wrestle with these questions for themselves. This series created space for our students to investigate doubts and questions without the fear of being judged or rejected. We are creating a culture of freedom, not a culture of fear. We are starting to see the harvest.


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The Power of Yes

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Today’s guest blogger is Matthew Lumpkin, an ordained baptist minister and Fuller alum who feels called to work in technology building systems that encourage people to be more human. He teaches an adult Sunday School class at Altadena Baptist Church where he's attended with his wife and two girls for nearly 8 years.


“My cousin is gay but she also loves Jesus, reads her Bible, and goes to church. Can we talk about whether or not that’s even possible?”

I had just asked the class for their burning questions, the ones they’ve always wondered about but didn’t feel they were allowed to ask at church.

To my surprise, over half the class spoke up in agreement with more examples of people from their lives who they know, some they love, who also are living this apparent paradox: gay and Christian. They wanted to understand better how to think about, talk to, and love these people in their lives.

During my time in student ministry and leading this adult Sunday school I’ve tried to make room for these kinds of burning questions. But with some trepidation about this particular topic, I agreed to prepare a series of lessons about gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, transgender, and questioning people (“gay,” for short), the Bible, and the Church.

Can I Ask That? was the first resource I went to because I knew it had a chapter about being gay and being Christian. I also knew that FYI had a reputation for balancing accessibility, good work with biblical texts, and pastoral sensitivity to the real ways these hard questions intersect real people’s lives, especially the lives of students.


Four Things That Surprised Me

1. Setting boundaries on our tone actually worked

Before we began addressing the actual topics, we spent some time describing the kind of conversation we wanted to have. That is, a conversation that was faithful to the character of Jesus. We agreed to speak about gay people as though they were in the room. In several cases we knew they actually were. We agreed not to doubt anyone’s faith or make ultimatums about what one another “had to believe” to still count as a “real” Christian. Along with several guides on owning our own feelings and listening with the same charity with which we want to be heard, these made up our “Agreement of Humility and Respect.” I was convinced we would fail at these, but keeping them posted on the wall enabled us to keep the same kind of conversation as people came and went from week to week. One of the reasons we are afraid to ask divisive questions (especially at church) is that we are afraid of the conversation devolving into opposing camps in battle. The stricter boundaries on the kind of conversation we all agreed we wanted made people feel safer to say riskier things and engage.

2. Praying for and caring for one another enables a different kind of conversation

Perhaps most importantly, we continued our regular practice of beginning our weekly meetings by sharing the ways we believe we’ve seen God at work in our lives that week, and the things we are worried about that we would like one another to remember in prayer. Even when I strongly disagree with your position, if you pray for my sick child, and I pray for your dying mother, it changes how we approach one another. By enacting community and care, we were primed to listen with openness and empathy.

3. Health care professionals offer interesting experience to the conversation

One of the first questions the group wanted to address was: “What does science have to teach us about gay people and gender?” This question was posed by a retired public health nurse. She had some idea about the kinds of genetic disorders that can cause someone with XY (male) chromosomes to never develop secondary sex characteristics or male genitalia.

Accurate numbers of babies born in the US with some ambiguity in their genitalia are hard to come by. The best estimates are between 1 / 1000 and 1 / 500. Another retired nurse in the class who had worked in neonatal intensive care said that number seemed low as compared to her experience. She had seen quite a few babies with ambiguous genitalia and was heartbroken to see how often parents push for surgical revision based on what is visible at birth. We found that talking about making room for kids born between genders in our communities of faith was much easier than talking about “gays” or “lesbians,” especially for folks on the conservative side. It’s hard to blame a baby for how they are born.

4. Welcoming questions welcomes people with questions

The biggest surprise to me was that by making room for these questions and by treating them thoughtfully over a year, we made room for people who weren’t even part of the group to talk about it too. It was almost as if the space that we made in that basement classroom extended beyond it.

Because people knew we were wrestling with this, young people in the church came out to me and to other adults in the church. Adults shared stories of sexual questioning. Parents who had kept their children’s sexual identities quiet felt free to talk about them with me, members of the class, and others at the church more openly.

Regardless of how you feel about the appropriate role of gay people in the church, it’s hard to see it as anything but good that a young person who is experiencing same-sex attraction feels they can remain a part of their community of faith while they work to understand it. 

Because when you welcome questions, you welcome people with questions.

When the answer to “Can I ask that?” is “Yes,” then so is the answer to the question, “Am I welcome here?” And if we do that long enough, with humility and respect, then we make room for the Spirit of God to transform us into something resembling the character of Jesus.


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Today’s guest blogger is Jason Heppner, a recent graduate of Fuller Theological Seminary (‘11 MDiv, Youth, Family, & Culture), he is the Family Ministry Director at Glendale Presbyterian Church in Glendale, CA, coaches baseball for Crescenta Valley High School in La Crescenta, CA, and frequents any and all coffee shops that sell and offer Stumptown Coffee.

Can I ask that?

No.

Oh…

(End of conversation.)

How often have you heard this type of shut-down conversation take place between an adult and a curious teenager?

“No” can take different forms. It disguises itself so you may not think you’re shutting down the conversation, but to the student it’s the same thing:

  • Let’s talk later.
  • Not now.
  • …  because that’s what the Bible says.

Saying, “No” means the moment has ended and doesn’t deserve to move on.

But what does “No” accomplish? Well, nothing really. It represents a lack of creativity, time, and desire for engagement. Momentum is halted and deeper relationships are thwarted.   

So let’s change one word of that conversation to encourage ongoing conversation: “Yes.”

Suddenly, we have endless possibilities.

  • Yes” communicates to the student that you’re a safe person to share with.
  • Yes” encourages the student to ask deeper questions.
  • “Yes” removes barriers that almost all students have as they approach youth leaders and youth pastors regarding faith, sexuality, and relationships.

Can I Ask That? says, “Yes” over and over again to extending deeper conversations with students about God and faith. It’s a resource that actually resources the youth leader with responses to questions that have historically felt scary and, honestly, questions that sometimes seem impossible to adequately respond to.

Have you ever had a student whose questions were so thought out and deep that you wondered if they thought about anything else? Jake was one of those students for me. He had a lot of questions. What’s God’s role in my life? How does my pursuit of Jesus define who I am? Where am I going in life?

I had the privilege of walking (sometimes running) alongside Jake navigating through questions, reading and studying the Scriptures together, and having conversations over flavorless coffee and mocha lattes about how this all goes together.

Jake’s questions and thirst for life remained constant, but Can I Ask That propelled him in a direction that I didn’t know was possible. It bolstered him to take the lead on forming a Student Leadership Team in our ministry. He got other students to attend our Tuesday evening gathering where we talk openly about Scripture, faith, and the complexities of life. He steps up to serve his peers, comes early to set up, engages thoughtfully in small groups, and is always willing to serve and lead. He continues to ask questions, and brings others alongside him who also ask questions.

Students were already asking these questions; they were just looking for a safe place to address them. All I had to do was say yes.

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We had dated for one month, and I knew there was a problem.

She had mannerisms I didn’t like.

She was so head-over-heels for me (or at least that’s what I thought), it was actually quite annoying. She wanted to spend every spare moment together; I wanted to hang with my friends.

I was a high school senior and I had major doubts about this romance I found myself in.

But I kept those doubts to myself. I endured a few more months of this relationship and then ... I couldn’t handle it any longer and broke up with her. She was devastated, and completely surprised.

In our important relationships, whether with friends, spouses, co-workers, or even God, why do so many people keep doubt inside?

Doubt should evolve in any serious follower of Jesus. In that sense, doubt is good news. Only someone wrestling with faith on a deeper level will care enough to ask some of the faith’s toughest questions.

But, like a senior boy who hasn’t figured out how to express himself, we often keep it inside. It’s not all relational naiveté though. There are some legitimate reasons we fear expressing our doubt:

  1. Doubt produces conflict. Admitting doubt almost always leads to hard conversations. For those who fear conflict, doubt means submitting yourself to potential discomfort.
  2. Doubt admits the relationship is in jeopardy. Most of us realize that relational doubts can lead to the end of a relationship. Doubts usually mean we are saying something is (potentially) wrong and, if not satisfactorily addressed, the relationship will change or end.
  3. Doubt opens the doubter to potential criticism. Expressing doubt could lead to feeling like an outsider in community. The friends of this high school girlfriend were my friends too. If the relationship didn’t go well, it could mean the end of the community that I was a part of.

The same three barriers attempt to prevent us from verbalizing doubt in the church. We fear the energy required in the conflict of doubt, the admission that seriously addressing doubt has negative ramifications, and the potential of being excluded from the community we love. So we keep our mouths shut.

A couple of years ago, a good friend of mine pulled me aside. This friend was seen as a leader in the church, a “pillar.” She was someone people respected—she got things done and worked tirelessly for the cause of the church.

“I don’t think I believe in God, really,” she said to me in a hushed tone, even though no one was nearby. “I don’t know who else to tell, but I’ve never really experienced God in any way that would make me sure life isn’t just a random accident.”

I thought about my response for a moment, then offered, “Tell me more.”

Her courage to be vulnerable, combined with a response that didn’t shame, led to a healthy and hopeful dialogue about faith.

Could this conversation happen in your ministry? What kind of environment are you creating for young people’s big questions?

The death of my high school romance started with silence, not doubt. Silence kills. Choosing silence results in the very harm we were trying to avoid in the first place.

Don’t let silence be the story teenagers tell later in life.

  

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Today’s guest contributor is Lisette Fraser, a wife, mom of 2 middle school students, and a 16 year youth ministry veteran serving as Pastor of Student & College ministries at Glenkirk Church in California. 

I think the thing I love most about youth ministry is walking alongside students as they discover faith. Sometimes this happens in unexpected ways. For example, I’ve been blessed to serve as a volleyball coach in a local school. Through the relationships I’ve built with these girls, a few of them started coming to church and have even made deeper faith decisions.

One of my greatest joys is leading a small group with these gals. We meet every other week to pray, study, and do life together. I love these girls and I want them to have an open, honest, and deep faith. We have tried to provide a space where they feel safe, where they know they can ask any question, and where they are invited to discover faith on their own.

After Bible study one night, I asked the girls to share any questions they had about God and faith. What was surprising was how incredibly articulate and thoughtful they were in response. They wondered things like the validity of the Bible, how God feels about women, where science and faith meet, and how God sees all kinds of different people.

Looking back over their list, I laughed when I realized that the questions they were asking were the same questions addressed in Can I Ask That?

As we’ve worked through the book, I love that it meets each student, no matter where they are on their faith journey. I’ve got gals with a committed faith, others with no idea of what faith is, and everything in between. And yet each student has been captivated by the content of Can I Ask That? They love the book, the layout and, most importantly, how easy it is to engage. It is thoughtfully written in a way that levels the playing field. No one knows more than anyone else, and together we have a guide to thoughtful conversation.

The first week of our series we looked at the question, “What is the Bible, anyway?” A couple of students in our group got their first Bibles ever as Christmas gifts this year, and it was so cool to see them growing closer to Jesus by discovering the background of his Word. At the same time, a couple of our girls who had grown up in the church had the opportunity to make another significant step in the journey of making faith their own.

Each of us learns each week. We laugh, we argue, we wonder, and we learn. And no questions are off limits.

 

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As a parent, there are few things I want more than to see my kids become people who love and serve others with the heart of Jesus. This is a scary thing to want.

If I’m honest, I want them to become these people without experiencing a lot of personal pain, loss, or risk. But in my stronger moments, it means I hope God disturbs my kids’ sense of identity, their understanding of how they fit in the neighborhood and world, and how they live out their calling.

We live in these tensions a lot as parents. Comfort, safety, and assurance of security often vie for dominance over the downward way of Jesus that calls us to give ourselves away in service to the poor and marginalized.

We need help navigating this tension. That’s why we’re so glad to partner with our friends at Compassion International on a new project, Step Into My Shoes.

Step Into My Shoes is an invitation to experience life through the eyes of a family across the world and process what it means for your family’s life in your own neighborhood. No passport required. The FYI team has been working alongside Compassion’s Advocacy team to create a resource you can use to create discussions at the dinner table, at bedtime, and through fun hands-on family activities. Here’s a video explaining why we created this experience for you:

 

 

 

The Family Kit includes a written guide, DVD, and more to help you lead your family through this four-step experience.

If you are a church leader, there’s also a group starter kit that includes all you need for adapting the experience to a local congregation, including a 75% discount on individual family kits.

To be clear, the goal of this project isn’t to get you or your church to sponsor more kids through Compassion. While that might be a step you want to take, the hope is simply that each family and each church will take one next step—whatever that step might be, locally or globally—toward helping children in need. That’s something we can all rally behind. Join us on this journey!

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I hadn’t heard or preached a sermon about Jesus' transfiguration before, and it sounded like fun.

I approached the passage nervously though. I’m new to frequent preaching, and our church is just a little over a year old, but it’s growing with lots of people new to the faith. What would people think of this story that even I found a little odd? Jesus on a mountainside with clouds, a booming voice, and two guys show up who have been dead for centuries?

Instead of just wondering what people were thinking, I asked them to text their thoughts and questions and, in real time, they would appear on the screens during the message. The questions were good, but nothing I hadn’t expected:

Why Elijah and Moses and not someone else?

Why did Jesus just take Peter, James and John?

If Jesus is God, why is he hearing God’s voice distinct from himself?

All good questions, but then there was this:

I have to be honest. This story just seems like a fairy tale to me. Is it okay to doubt?

Three words stick out in this text message that should haunt every pastor and youth worker alike:

Is it okay…?”

They are pleading words. “Is it okay…?” are words that reveal deep struggle. They are words that underscore a key ministry premise I’m convinced about: People are dying for permission to doubt.

The truth is that doubt hits all of us. It lands somewhere on a spectrum ranging from unrelenting force at one extreme to a nearly imperceptible subconscious soundtrack at the other. Doubt exists in every human being. We spend our lives either allowing doubt to come to the surface for air, or neatly locking it away in a hidden cage.

After that transfiguration sermon, I decided that I am going to talk about the importance of healthy doubt until these people fall over and scream, We get it! Stop!

As a senior pastor, I assure you that adults need to hear “It is okay…” just as much as teenagers. They almost can’t receive enough “doubt permission” from us because, somewhere in our hearts, it seems too good to be true that God would be so good and gracious as to allow unbelief without retribution.

The teenagers you work with may have another barrier to processing doubt. That barrier could be you. Ask yourself: Are you okay with doubt? Or are you threatened by it? If so, why? What does that say about God? What does it say about the church?

If we take the words “Is it okay…?” seriously, we’ll create an environment of questions. People of all ages need a church culture where the words, “I’m doubting God” are never met with shame.

The people around you are dying for permission. So lean in. Don’t wait, but instead be the instigator of the toughest questions, and see what surfaces. You hold the key to something unbelievably valuable—the key to give permission and affirm, “It is okay...”

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